Identity Crisis

Identity Crisis

Have you ever had an identity crisis? A time in your life when you forgot who, or even maybe Whose you were?

There is a Max Lucado book out entitled “You Are Special” and it has been a favorite of mine for years.  It’s about this group of people called the Wemmicks. The Wemmicks are people who take immense pleasure in placing either dots or stars on their fellow Wemmicks. Stars are good dots are bad. No one wants the dots!

There is one Wemmick named Punchinello who is forever the recipient of dots. The other Wemmicks place dots on him with joy and with every dot, Punchinello feels the rejection and senses he is not nor will he ever be, good enough.

Ever felt that way?

Me too.

The dots we receive from others often come with labels of “not good enough”, “just do better”, “you have run out of chances”, “you are not what I expected”, or even “not worth my time”. Sound familiar to you?

My very first dot was from someone I loved, trusted, looked up to. He was my Daddy. I didn’t understand at the time all the struggles he was dealing with himself. All I knew was that I just could never be good enough, no matter how hard I tried. I always made messes, never got the all A+’s, I disobeyed, and just never was worthy of the love I so longed for from him. That dot turned into two dots, and three, four, and on they went. Soon I just began accepting dots from anyone who was handing them out to me because I felt I deserved them.

In true enemy fashion, the devil himself has made sure that there is always at least one person in my life to place dots on me.  People who would never be satisfied with how God made me, me! The enemy has made sure that those people would use similar words as my Daddy did so that the enemy could try his best to keep me in a perpetual state of hurt. Each person would press on the wound created years and years ago and would bring back in a flash hurts that had already been laid to rest in Jesus.

Punchinello and I could have been besties with how many dots we both shared!

But the best part is, the story does not end with the dots!

Punchinello paid some visits to his makers house and learned his maker had a completely different definition of who he was! The makers opinion was the only one that mattered and Punchinello was able to finally find freedom in that and once he did, his dots began to fall off!

Like Punchinello, I have been to the feet of my Maker.  In Him I find out that all of the accusations, the labels, the dots happily placed on me are not how He views me. If you are God’s child, it is the same for you!

Listen to this quote from Ann Voskamp’s book, “The Broken Way”:

“People will always have opinions about you. But you live for God because He’s the only one who has intimate knowledge of you. Nothing anyone says can malign you, assign you, or confine you. Your Maker’s the only one who can define you.”

Going to our Maker {instead of people} for our self worth and defining brings FREEDOM! Jesus speaks life, the enemy and those used by him speak death. Jesus speaks truth, the enemy speaks lies laced in accusations.  Once we begin to find our worth and value is tied up in Jesus alone, all of those “dots” and even the “stars” will lose their power and control over us. We will begin to recognize the voice of truth over the voice of the enemy.

Listen to this quote Jennifer Rothschild shares in her book “Me Myself, and Lies”:

“You can’t remove those hurtful thoughts, words, and memories, but by the power of God, you can drain them of their potential control over you.” 

Friend, let’s make it our prayer today that we begin and keep on looking to Jesus to be the One Who defines us. Our Maker has said in Psalm 139:14 that each of us is fearfully and wonderfully made! His words are full of truth seasoned with grace and our Maker’s opinion is the only one that truly matters.

Be encouraged!




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