We grew up in the same home, were raised by the same parents, surrounded by the same siblings. We are siblings. All five of us have now grown and moved to various states across this country, yet one of my siblings has chosen to live a gay lifestyle.
Did that just shock you? Ya, it was a shock to me too.
I feel rather vulnerable even now, opening up on here to share this with you all. Yet, I feel compelled to share because I’m sure there are some who can relate and need some encouragement.
Here’s the thing, though I disagree with my siblings lifestyle choice, though I will never condone what he is doing, I still love him.
I remember getting the phone call several years back when he notified us of his “coming out”. There was a chill that raced down my spine and an ache in my heart that I had never known before. “NO!” I thought, and my husband and I wept, bitterly wept for him. It was a heart wrenching shock and though we spoke truth in love to him, his heart and mind were made up.
I have sat around the table and listened quietly while others spoke of these people in this kind of lifestyle in a way that was not God-honoring. Sometimes it is easier to simply talk about them grossly instead of praying for them earnestly. The lifestyle is sinful, no doubt about it, but let’s not forget that there are mother’s, and father’s, and siblings, and others who are deeply grieved because someone they love is involved in this lifestyle. The words we choose to use and how we choose to say them can add sting after sting to a mother who has been earnestly praying for her child to come back to the Lord. Those words can feel like a boulder was just tossed their way and instead of having a safe place to share the burden of having a wayward child or relative, they sit in silence, fearing the harsh judgements from others.
My heart is grieved for my brother. I have sat with my mother as she has wept for the soul of her son. I have seen the blame she has placed on her shoulders, a weight no mothers shoulders are strong enough to bare. I have seen the concern in her eyes over decisions her son, my brother, has made. His lifestyle is one we will never condone, never accept as right, but we will also never stop loving him. We will never stop caring for him. Never stop praying that God would intervene in his life!
Instead of simply writing mean articles and speaking hateful words when referring to someone in this lifestyle, why not take a moment to pray for them and reach out to them? I’m not saying to excuse their lifestyle and not call sin what it is, I would never say that, but rather, remember chances are in this day and age someone you are close to has been affected by someone in this lifestyle and may be hurting deeply because of it. When God brings someone of this lifestyle across your path, reach out! They don’t have the plague. If you talk to them and try to minister to them you will not “catch” what they have. Yes, you may face rejection, but they ultimately are not rejecting you, but Christ. As a believer, this is part of what being a believer is about! It’s about fulfilling the great commission! It is a lot easier to turn the other way and pretend we never saw them, but what if, what if God placed some people in your life that are of this lifestyle, because He knew He would be able to use you to point them to Him!
We all sin.
That is why Jesus came! Luke 5:32, “I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.“
I am deeply thankful that someone shared Christ with me! It is my turn to keep sharing Him with others.